child or GrOwN uP???????????????
I was thinking today about my dad stopping me to do most of things by saying either im young or im grown up,its just to put a hold [ red signal] on my expressing thoughts at that moment.
As usual me and dad had petty fight about some silly thing.I was talking to mom about some political guy who was being shown on television and we were having agood discussion, inbetween dad shouts at me to stop the nonsense and he cuts me by saying"your little kid, just dont say such things against anyone".But whats the point in proving to my dad that im old enough for somethings atleast.But i just keep my thought to myself and keep quite.
Today it was tuesday and I asked mom to give me the cash to pay my fees and to my horror mom says "ur not old enough to take such big amount with u" and she stops further argument by saying its not safe to carry such cash along with me.I think its all rubbish when would i ever know my true responsibility until im not trusted to fulfil my responsibility given to me?By this thought i just leave to college.Am i not wearing gold on my body,which wont be safe in their terms then how come Im allowed to wear them.
Today its sunday morning,i was playing with kids on the street mom suddenly calls me and tells me to behave properly.I just get bewildered by her saying so and I question her back and she answers me im grown should understand it by now WHY.Sometimes she says me ur grown up kid try to act smart.
Today i leave to use my first voting responsibility and indeed i screw up myself loosing my voer id.This lead me to such conclusion im aint grown up for carrying on such petty things then how come im able to take reponsibilites after being married.These thoughts never leave me and i m bind to them.
Initiations must be made to start being some responsibility and wats that?
I just dont understand is everyone thinks or assumes me as a play thing to them so that when ever they wish they can call me a kid or grownup.I WISH ANYONE CAN LET ME DECIDE WHAT I ACTUALLY AM I?
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HI LAVANYA,
ur thought is almost everybodies thought....how hypocratic can adults be...
WELL EXPRESSD....i would suggest instead of showing the voters id loss, u cud have said something else which an adult wud never do to prove tht 18 is not old enough.
But no matter how old u are... you are always young or old enough not to do certain things. jst a thought....
lovulife
i just mention wat happend to me recently and truly i lost my voters id thank god i had a spare one.
I wasnt proving anybody that im adult its all waste noone in my home would stick to one thing.
I don't know your circumstances...here's some salt and advice
Welp, I'm 27... been working for 11 years, I have the start of a career in sales and I'm growing close to marrying my GF of 8 years.... I still don't feel like a "responsible adult". The one thing I can tell you is this, responsibility is not given, it is taken on. There will come a day, regardless of whether your parents allow you these responsibilities that you will find that somehow, you just start taking them on either by neccesity or because your drawn to them so much so that you can't help yourself.
From age 16, I made very slow, almost un-noticable progress towards self-sufficiency. I got my first apartment, job, went to college, all on my own... trick is, I didn't ask anyone. These things were required for my own self worth, my own sense of accomplishment and partly an affirmation of my own strength and intellegence.
Your hungry for that challenge, it seems so at least. Reflect on that, what goals are you trying to acheive? I ask only because, self-reliance is a double-edge sword; you will inevitabley be completely responsible for yourself at some point, why rush it?
If you still wish to press forth, depending on your age... you can decide certain things for your self, don't ask for responsibilities; take them..even the ones you don't deem nessicary (take out the trash, mow the lawn, . The reasoning behind this, it seems that your parents are "show me the money types", demonstrate this capacity in everything you do. Call when your running late from a party or a trip to the mall, show them your budget, marvel them with you insight (your here, you write poetry.) show them the adult you've already started to become. Til then, take solice in the fact that you still have a little time left as a child, for those times fade quickly......but I digress, caught up in my own longing to be a kid again)
thanx loco glitch
Im srry but was offended by ur perception of my parents .I dont feel bad coz might be i gave such impression in my prose. my parents arent money minded, its me who always try to get independent and as im typical india gal who has been living with parents frm childhood even nw wen im 22 yrs old.
I just need to fulfil my dreams and along with my parents, intermixing and giving a new version so no1 is hurt .as far as responsibility concerned i do it but wat i meant here is my dream to start old age home and educate my village ppl in agriculture nd stop some mishapenning which happen at my place like kind of social causes[:d] and also doing reserch in my feild.
never mind but im truly happy to know ur kind of taking responsibility and i wish u and ur gf a very happy future dear.
Hope i didnt offend u by my wrds if so im xtremely srry im bit over enthusiastic and gives more emotional drama person[:p]
Please forgive us
Understanding diffierent cultures and how they raise thier children into adulthood can be confusing. As an american we might say, "stand up for your rights! Face your parents down and tell them your not a child anymore." For some cultures, though, that would not be good advice. Please forgive us if we dont understand the perscption of indepedence in every family and culture. Believe me, our hearts are with you.
That being said, I fear I'm not very good at reading prose. Maybe you were not looking for advice at all, just wanted to be heard. I can understand very well what you must be going through, and I could identtify with the piece very well. Good write.
Mocit
oops srry mocit
srry i can get it i thought i shuld say wat i felt but im not offended dear yea its diffrnt fr diffrnt cultures and i respect evryone
but leave it and abt advice they r always welcum as im not into this very diffrnt real wrld .
Im was saying im a bird who knows flying but is still held in the nest by its mother and bird cant fly with open wings nd fly to the heights nd face those prblms and experience all gud n bad to becum a better human.
No issues have gud day dear mocit
a misunderstanding
I'm not offended... I apologize... for having caused you any insult. The comment made wasn't meant to imply that your parents specifically want money or are materialistic in anyway. It's a quote from Jerry Maguire (Movie), I didn't mean to referance it literaly...more so, the idea that word's and thoughts are better recieved when the product of the resulting course of action is poignant and obvious. Cuba Goodings character says those words to Tom Cruise as a response to an appeal on Cruises' part for Goodings character to have more faith in him as his agent (Goodings character is a Football Player). The response is uttered repetively by Cuba until he is singing and dancing and yelling it into the telephone. Which all plays out quite humorously. In other word, rather than trying to reason with your parents show them the merits of the responsibilities you have already taken care of, "show me the money"; the figurative product of your efforts.
Once, again... I am sorry for any misunderstanding, I have a tendency (typical to most americans, honestly) to unwittingly assume that everyone else has seen all the same movies, read the same books, etc. I tend to forget that the internet is a world-wide community. Dam this yankie mentally of mine.
Hopefully, the above explaination has put any misunderstandings to rest.
i have seen that mvie and
i have seen that mvie and its one of my fav mvie but i never got much invovled in dailogues[:d]
anyways thanx for replying hope we becum gud frnds and im happy to meet lot of diffrnt ppl over here
thanx to priya nair
Very well said
Perhaps responsibility sneaks up on us all hey Loco?
hey
I guess how one "grows up" and take hold of responsibilty is not something we can schedule or predict. I guess it just happens. According to my folks, i am still a duffer of a son....blabber mouth, irresponsible and still "light hearted" :)
I guess it differs from people to people and culture to culture......i mean take good old Loco (just came to know about him the few posts and comments that i read in the past 45 minutes), he has been makiing his own dough since the age of 16 and has been in a very solid relationship for the past 8 yrs and still says he is not mature enough. If it was in the land of Mystical India, i guess me and Lavanya would be saying "wow! now there is one guy who is totally responsible and stable"
It is not whether you have a full grown beard or whether you are an owner of voters ID card that makes you an Adult. It is neither the "will power" to carry "huge" of college fees nor the "standard" to talk family matters on the table that make you responsible. Instead it is the belief in oneself that he/she knows where they stand and what they do that makes one a better human and the world around you a better place.
Regards
Museem
PS: LOCO hope you have a great life ahead with your Wife-to-be and who knows i might end up for your wedding. I have plans of a US visit. :)